BellaOnline Forums Food and Wine Etiquette Do You Send Thank-You Notes?

When you get a present, or get invited over for dinner, do you send a thank you note? Not an email, but an actual paper thank you note?

Not for dinner. I do try to text people and occasionally send cards out. But dinner I normally would return the complement, and say thankyou on the night I went.

I do think cards are a lovely way of saying thankyou though.
I tend to thank people for help by sending a card.

I am ashamed to admit I do not do that very often anymore. I usually call or send an email to say thank you. However, I am one of the first to jump up and say email has taken away from courtesies we used to exhibit on a daily basis.

Thanks for bringing this to my attention, Lisa. I am going to try to start sending personal thank you cards again. I have a very old card sorter, Victorian type, that I would keep cards in, so I would always have one available. Whenever I was out shopping, if I saw a card for any occasion that I liked, I would buy it and put it in my organizer. I am going to go get it out right now.

I do send thank you cards, i buy them at the dollar store. i also stock up on thinking of you cards to send to my grand daughters, n friends. i can't afford long distance phone calls, so i enjoy keeping in touch with cards!

Usually I just send an email, so I am just as bad. I do love getting real physical notes

I was reading a book recently on Green Chic that was talking about ways to be polite inexpensively. It was talking about sending recycled paper notes. It made me think how my mother complains if she gives someone a present and they don't send her a physical note in return. But then I don't think she sends physical notes for gifts or dinners herself.

Email and e-cards are certainly cool, but there's something about getting a real actual physical note in your hands And I do have a set of cards right here in the drawer that I could use ...

I do send thank you notes for gifts and dinners/meals I actually attend, more often than not in the form of e-cards. Cards and postage are too expensive.

If its a dinner I was invited too but opted not to attend, I RSVP (usually by phone - thank goodness for Vonage - one rate no charges for long distance).

I tend to send emails if thatis the persons prefered method of communications. I have even been known to send a thank you txt message to someone if thats how they communicate.

I do like the thank you note.. not a cheesy pre-printed THANK YOU note.. but one where you take the time and get a nice stationary card and do it yourself.

Before the Internet, I had always sent thank you notes for dinners, especially if it was the first time we had gotten together. Although I now send an email more often than a note, I think that a hand-written note is definitely more special and that is what I use when a host/hostess has really rolled out the red carpet for us.

I have been noticing that letter-writing is becoming a thing of the past. In fact, I am beginning to think that cursive writing itself may soon become a lost art. There are many students today who never use cursive writing at all. I wouldn't be surprised if it is eliminated from school curriculums soon.

I eagerly await the death of cursive writing.

I'm left handed, and was taught to write exclusively by right handed people... both print and cursive. The result is a woman with poor penmanship who doesn't "hold the pen right for a leftie." It's mentioned to me at least once every few weeks. (I work with the public, so a lot of different people see me write.)

My print is decent, if I'm not in too much of a hurry, but my cursive is and always has been horrendous. When I was in elementary school, cursive writing was one of the grades on the report card. I was kept off the honor roll for my penmanship multiple times. Lots of A's, an occasional B, and a steady C in cursive writing (My teachers were kind and generous). By the time I reached high school, I was no longer forced to use cursive, so I stopped. Completely. I refused to continue embarrassing myself with my handwriting any longer. I actually carried (and kind of still do) a lot of shame about my handwriting. I admit that's childish and pathetic, but so is my cursive writing.

If my signature still had more than two or three legitimate characters, I could say I use cursive for signing things, but that's not the case. I have gladly put that writing style out of my daily life.

Sorry to hijack the thread, but the mention of cursive writing hits a sensitive spot I've carried for a couple of decades.

Wow that's a shame myrabeth! Out of all the things in life, what a thing to be upset about! And people still harass you about it??