I was born in 1958 and was encouraged by my parents to go to University...I have a successful legal career, happy marriage, enjoy lots of travel, a rich social life and financial security.
When I think about life for women in the 40s, 20s, 1870s, 1700s - I see limited opportunities for education and employment, no reliable birth control, little or no independence, the stigma of being a "spinster"...no thanks, I wouldn't have survived when my choices were so limited - spinsterhood and living with my parents or marriage and having a baby or miscarriage every year of my reproductive life. (with no effective pain control, epidurals, caesarean sections)
If you married well you painted, sewed, played the piano and had children....if you married an ordinary man you had a life of backbreaking work and kids...
In those days there were no labour saving devices...you made your own cheese, cream & butter, wood burning stoves, baking bread and everything else, coppers and hand wringers, washing nappies by hand etc...
My great grandmother had 10 children - her first at 20...her last at 46...no doubt, miscarriages in between...she also, had a stillborn son at 43 - what a hard life! Her husband was a dairy farmer so, she helped milk the cows, ran the house and cared for her kids.
I like/need to be in control of my life - I'm independent and opinionated...
I feel fortunate to have been born in a time that offered options, choices & opportunities for females - and that my working class parents were open minded enough to encourage me to "reach for the stars"...
Last edited by Deborah49; 03/08/08 08:38 AM.