I just don't know what the deal is with them. Things were okay up until a few weeks ago with that DIL in MT and my son. But, they had a (FL) Disney vacation shortly before that and of course the natural father was there too - they were ever so nice to send me a picture of them together... They came home and things were strained - but ok. She developed a problem with understanding what I wrote to the point that she turned it around, put herself in each sentence and added that I hate her to it. (I have NEVER told her that before!!) All of a sudden I was too old, and even tho we have stayed in touch - both claimed they really didn't know me. Yes - I believe it was my ex that got garbage started in their minds as he is great at stuff like that. What really baffled me was that my son has all of a sudden developed amnesia of sorts - claiming to have had a terrible childhood. It is strange. We always had fun. It was the neighborhood house to be at - all were welcomed. We moved every 2 years or so (husband was in the Navy). DIL claims that when they first met he told her is family was dead. I remember a different beginning.
My other son lives close to us - and they drive past here often but never stop in. That DIL says we can't have a relationship until I drive over and visit them first. I haven't driven in 3 years. I am suffering from osteoarthritis of the spine, neck and shoulders and can barely walk anymore. About the only time I leave the house is to go to a doctors appointment. The doc said that my spine looks like it belongs to a 70+ year old. Well I told the kids that as for the reason I do not drive anywhere. It doesn't matter. My son isn't allowed to call either. I think its more like he really doesn't want to because he could when he is at work.
I miss the grandkids.And I will miss making things for them But like I told the DIL that lives out of state - if no one will talk to me and keep me informed - their sizes and color fav's ect - I just can't make stuff. She said she would tell them that I sent the stuff before but didn't want them to have it - because I hate her. I asked why she wants to lie to those younguns - but she didn't answer. Geez!!! I can't imagine intentionally hurting them like that. But she did! How awful!
Her husband - up until he grew up and left home used to tease me and say "Mom - I'll never leave you". yea right - but the girls are still here and neither of them approve - as if it is something that I need their approval on. My husband rarely says anything but mention the boys now and he gets upset. He doesn't say anything - but when he has that "look" - he is very upset.