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#374304 02/10/08 06:38 PM
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Before we had our child, I had thought that I was ready to be a parent and that it was what I wanted. I had no idea how much I would mourn the loss of myself and my life. I had no idea that I would lose myself this much. It's been 19 months and I'm still reeling.
It's next to impossible for most women to be able to comprehend... to them, giving birth gave them life... gave them a sense of self and a connection to the world. To me, it was dying. All the parts that I liked about myself and my life are gone.
Anyhow, I just wanted to let you know that there are others like you out there that feel they've made a huge mistake that they will have to live with and make the best out of for at least 16 to 17 more years.

Wholy Moly...I just came across that! How horrible that must be. This person now has a child and simply regrets it. I really do feel bad for her b/c I think living in this kid-centric world can mess with some people and they get caught up and think they want to join in and have kids...then really realize who they are and it is too late!!!


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It's to bad because that child didn't ask to be born!


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Hey! Yes, that is sad. That is a mistake that cannot be undone. When I got remarried and I knew my DH kinda wanted children...I actually thought about it. I saw a psychologist to really make sure of my decisions. I am 37rys. so I didn't have much time just hang and think about it later. Well, needless to say, I didn't have children. My friends said I just got "baby rabies"! Well, they only lasted a few months and I feel like I had brain damage b/c I know in my heart..I DO NOT WANT KIDS!!!


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So tragic. That is exactly why I always advise fence sitters to really think about their choice before you make it.

I am guessing that if you really want to have a child, you don't question it. If you are having trouble deciding, to me, that's a red flag NOT TO DO IT!!

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