The first thing I must tell you is that he cannot stop; at least not on his on and he can promise you anything but it won't happen. The second thing is that you absolutely must get to Al-Anon. You and your children must learn what to do and how to get YOUR lives back together. Has anyone suggested AA? Honestly, until he is ready, until something is more important than drinking he cannot stop no matter what. Unfortunately, he may do further damage to himself and someone else if he continues. I would ask that you write to me at 12steprecovery@bellaonline.com. If I have your email address I think I can help you further. You are the important person right now (and your children). I'm glad you recognize this disease of alcoholism and it is even harder because I know you love him. I've been there but, of course, I am the alcoholic. Please email me so that I may ask you some questions you may not wish to answer on a public forum. I am here to be of service to you. God bless.
Kathy L.