Craig-I feel that there is a lot more information than is being said in your posts. There is a deep-rooted problem and if it has been going on for over five years, something has got to be done.
Do you know nothing at all about your wife's childhood, teen years, abuse if any? Is there illness, mental or physical, that hasn't been addressed? Was she raised in a very strict, religious family that taught her that sex was evil? When you were dating, what was her family like? Come on Craig, there are answers to these questions here somewhere!
You mentioned "not wanting to leave your special needs child in her mother's sole custody." Why? Are you afraid she will somehow harm the child?
Divorce is only an option and a last resort at that. But listen, Craig, fifty is not old at all. You are sacrificing your life for your children and you are truly not living. Children grow up and have lives of their own. Your life is too precious to waste. Are you really willing to go through the REST of your life miserable? No marriage vow is worth that.
Get your wife to a doctor as soon as possible. Unless you want to be miserable, it is the only thing you can do. Force the issue.
We were put here to be happy.
Edited by kristen houghton (06/02/08 09:12 PM)
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