This is a really difficult one. My kids never used a pecifier, they just didn't like it. Does he use the pacifier all the time? Or just at nap and bed time. You could try telling him that it is just for babies and he's not a baby anymore. He is old enough to use a reward system. Make a sticker chart and every night he goes to bed without the pacifier, he gets to put a sticker on the chart. After so many days, he will get a reward - maybe a trip to the park or something he enjoys. I used this system to get my kids to sleep in their beds and my son was around the same age and it worked.
Also, you could try to replace the pacifier with something like a blanket. My daughter would still be sleeping with hers if she hadn't lost in while we were on vacation (what a nightmare) She was 11 at the time and is now 15 and I think she still misses the blanket. lol
Our daughter's passy got "misplaced" one day when she was about 3. (I think it was in the glove compartment of my car). But we has just seen the movie "Monsters" (the Disney cartoon). She decided there was a baby monster in the woods that had her passy - and wanted to go look for it. We told her the monster was just a little, bitty baby and really needed the passy. She decided tha baby monster could have it, LOL!
But I have heard a much more mundane, and common, approach to ending the passy - is to cut the end off. It doesn't have to be all the way, just some. The rough edges discourage the child from wanting to suck on it, because it is no longer comforting.
Do it as soon as possible my 11yr old grand daughter still has her pacifier in private. she lives with her father and he see s nothing wrong with it or he just doesn't care, she raises a tantrum if she doesn't have it screaming i need it. i need it.
We are trying to work on our daughter who will 4 in November. Alot of people we have talked to have done the same thing with their kids in telling the child to collect all of her binkies or pacifiers or whatever you call them.
When the child collects them, have them put them in a box or decorate a tree with them so the "pacifier fairy" can collect them for babies who dont have them and she will leave a toy for the child in place of the binkies.
We are trying to potty train so that is taking all of our efforts right now.
I don't remember the exact age but she was 2 or younger, I just put them away. It was a pretty easy transition for my daughter. She was just like that though. We went from a bottle to a sippy cup AND started baby food on the same weekend. Being hungry helped to encourage her.
Personally, I think if you have waited until the child is old enough to TALK to you about it, you have waited too long.
Thanks for all the great ideas. I like the idea of rewards. I'll try to think of something like that.
Michelle, I had to laugh at your Monster baby story. LOL When my 17yo was 2, we went out on a speed boat cruise and she dropped hers over the side. We told her the fishies had it now. She went to bed asking for it and when we asked her where it was, she said a baby fishy had it. Problem solved. I sorta felt sorry for her tho...could see her little expression trying to imagine a baby fish with her pacy. But, I had been looking for a way to wean her and so it all worked out.
Vance, we are trying to potty train, too. I've got 5 kids and they all trained differently. This guy is my youngest and has no interest except sitting on a potty fully clothed.
I read once that a pacy or bottle keeps a child in "baby" mindset and it's harder to potty train. So, another reason to wean off this pacy!