You know how when something like this happens, the cheater often says its the only time they ever did it...something I don't believe.
You are right not to believe it. Men are liars when it comes to that. I know. I am a man and I was a cheater and I lied about it.
I am not proud of it but I did it and I cannot change it. I cheated on my first wife several times and I don't really know why.
It could be because I wasn't in love with her anymore, it could be because I was a virgin when I married her. It could be a lot of things, I just don't know. I did it and I accept full blame for it.
We were divorced in 96 but the divorce wasn't because of the cheating. The last time I cheated on her was in 94 and was faithful to her ever since. There were opportunities for me to cheat after that but I abstained.
Then it was given back to me. After the divorce, I had a new gf and we were getting along great. We had two children together and were making plans to get married. (we didn't want a courthouse wedding. We wanted a real wedding so I was trying to save money for that)
Anyway, a couple of years into the relationship, she cheated on me, (several times, I later found out) and subsequently left me for this other guy and married him.
I was devastated. I couldn't eat for almost six weeks and dropped almost forty pounds in weight. I cried for days until my tear ducts could produce no more tears. Finally, I pulled myself up by my boot straps, realized that I had done the same thing, except leave her for one of my affairs, and just let her go. I got custody of the children which I was very grateful for and she is living a life of misery with her husband.
They have a special needs child and he does nothing for her or to help her with him. I do feel bad for her but like the old adage goes: You made the bed, now lie in it.
Now I am married to a wonderful woman and we will be celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary this December 2007. My cheating days are behind me which I am also grateful for and we have a wonderful little girl in common who will be four this November.
I am stronger in my Christianity faith now than I was when I was cheating on my wife and I am grateful for everything that God is doing in our lives right now.
If you caught your man cheating once, unless you caught him on the very first time, he was cheating before that. I will guarantee it.
Can a man change from his cheating ways? I did but there are some who cannot or will not. Go with your instincts.