BellaOnline Forums Relationships Marriage Anybody have sick husband?

I am just wondering if all men are like this. My husband has been sick for over a week. I finally talked him in to going to the doctor sunday and they said he has a sinus infection. I had the same symptoms about a month ago and him, 2 kids and i were going to visit his brother. When i told him i had a headache and my sinuses hurt he asked me if he was going to have to listen to me whinning all weekend. So like i always do i sucked it up. He has done nothing but whine and complain and tell me how i am not taking care of him because he would be better by now. I do everything in my power to make him better even to the point of calling him throughout the day to tell him to take medicine. I reminded him after he went to the doctor that when i had the same thing a month ago i was told to suck it up. ( i never went to the doctor and was expected to do the wifely duties as any other day). Why are they so dependant on us to be the miracle worker when they are sick. but when we are sick we don't get an ounce of sympothy. Last night could have been the last straw but i didn't feel like fighting. I came out of the bathroom and said "babe my tummy hurts." You would think i would get a "what did you eat?" or "did you try ____?" but no i got "yea my tummy has been bothering me the last couple of days too"!!!!! what the hel_?

Oh mine is the same way. He will roll around in the bed all day whining about how sick he is but refuses to go to a doctor. I mention I am feeling the slightest bit off and he acts like he is brushing me off and tells me to go to the doctor. But I have to go to work, take care of kids, etc etc while I am sick or it looks like a tornado hits the inside of the house. he has gotten better over the years about at least cleaning up after himself and getting the kids to clean up too. He may complain that he is sick too or doesn't feel well to but I do get the "did you take anything for it", not the non-acknowledgement that you got.

Okay, here's the deal. Men are babies! Now I don't mean that in a bad way but they absolutely cannot take being sick!

As for when we wives get sick; the non-acknowledgment or the "go to the doctor" bit was getting to be annoying to me so I told my husband that when I am sick or in pain, I need love and compassion too. I told him his lack of sympathy hurts me more than he knows. This did work since he is a pretty reasonable man.

But, isn't it funny (or frustrating) that he had to be told? Couldn't he just have figured it out on his own?!

no kidding if only men were all required to go through at least a year of a womans life they would understand....maybe.

My DH is home sick today, and did not find out until 1 PM. I only know now because I called him when he was not answering email. His stomach is acting up, so he stayed home to snooze. That's fine, but I wish he would let me know when he stays home sick. Not that he ever does!