BellaOnline Forums Relationships Marriage I got married because...

Finish the sentence and then elaborate, if you want to do so, on why.

... I was 25 and decided that I was getting "too old". (When I was a teenager I had my life all figured out: married at 24; first child at 26, second 28, third at 30 - travel, career, etc.)
So when I ran into an "old boyfriend" of mine, I sized him up as "perfect husband/father" material. I married an idea, a dream, instead of living life and let things happen naturally.
We married at 27 (both same age), divorced five years later... no children.
Now I'm 41, living with a wonderful, beautiful, exceptional man (we've been together almost 2 years), after having been single for seven years. I've changed careers twice, have lived and survived devastating experiences, and have never been happier.
Will I remarry? Perhaps, but this time, it is not a race or something that I feel I need to do to feel complete.

the first time i got married was because we felt we "had" to to appease our parents. We dated for nearly 7 years ( i was 14 and he was 16 when we met, married when I was 21). He was rasied strict Catholic and they had a cow when we moved into together. But when we married, he changed. He became controlling and I wasn't having it. We lasted for 4 years of marriage.

I recently got married again on May 5th. This time I married him because I am deeply in love with him and he is my best friend. I know I can count on him to be there whenever I need him and vice versa. We have been together for 5 years but broke up for a little over a year. We remained good friends still during that year, but we realized we couldn't be apart.

I married my best friend, and I want to share all aspects of my life with him. I married a man who is sincere, loving, caring, and who is not afraid of emotions. He laughs with me, he cries with me, he learns with me, he enjoys precious moments in life with me. I married a man who is beautiful inside and out. I married a man who respects me, and who respects himself, and I know that he will be a wonderful father one day. I married someone who compliments my life. Someone who shares an unbroken trust with me, someone who encourages me (and whom I encourage). That's why I got married.

I love your honesty and the realness you put into your answer.

We were amoebas when we got married, second year of college. We really didn't know ourselves let alone each other.

We have worked through a lot of problems together including both of us changing careers. (He left corporate to go into teaching, I left teaching to write).

Reason we got married? We were in puppy love that, thank God, turned into the real thing.

Kristen, how wonderful it turned out so well!
You must have the recipe for making it work:
. communication
. sense of humour
. respect
It is so nice to hear success stories like yours (working hard through challenging times -- when so many give up, or only one of the two is ready to make the effort).
It's inspirational!
PG

Thank you PG! I think it's the sense of humour that really was the keystone;communication came a little harder. And the respect was an absolute necessity.

Blessings

I got married because we made a good team and decided to spend a lifetime together. I married someone who has become my best friend. I married both the man (smart, decent, kind, compassionate, and trustworthy) and the boy (funny, playful, maverick, and rebel). We make each other laugh, we have adventures, we have similar goals, dreams, and passions. But we are different enough too. I am the writer, he is the artist. I adore books, he is more musical. We have taught each other so much and there is immense mutual respect AND horseplay!

We've been together for almost five years, living together for four and a half. We aren't married, but eventually we will be. I am going to marry him because I firmly believe him to be the best match for me. He is the best friend I am constantly laughing and joking with. He is the lover I can't get enough of. He is the partner who makes home and money struggles worthwhile.

We are such incredible opposites in so many ways, but sharing our lives has been oddly easy. We vary rarely argue. We compromise. A lot. (Left brained versus Right brained makes for an interesting life!)We get out any aggravation or resentment in teasing each other and horseplay.

Even in a small apartment, we each have a private corner that is all his or own. We both believe this to be key to making marriage work. Even couples need separate space! Little things like that are part of how we manage to have him, me, and "we" in one relationship without too many of the lines getting blurry. It's how I know this relationship is worth trying for "forever."

Because

I am half without one.
I need someone to control me.
I need someone to be with me.
I need someone to care for me.
I need someone to love some.
Some one wanted me to control her.
Some one wanted to be with me.
Someone needed my care
Someone needed my love..

These are some of the reasons I married..