Well, I thought I posted this earlier - but i got bumped off the board, so we'll try again...
hi sadandscared,
I think your user name sums up perfectly what this is about.
It is very hard to give up on a marriage, it is like giving up part of your own soul.
This is my 2nd marriage, my 1st ended after 9 years - there were a lot of mistakes on both of our parts, but in the end I realized that my daughter AND my son would see how our marriage was and take that for how things should be. That was my final impetus for leaving. I didn't want either child (for opposite reasons) to think it was Ok for their Dad to have a mistress and me.
But it was very hard, and I found myself making may excuses for him because I so didn't want the marriage to end.
If you read over your own first post you will notice that for almost every comment you make stating why you are hurt, you give him an excuse for why he is doing it.
I'm not saying you have to give up on your marriage, yet. But, things do need to change. Even if your husband is a trucker, you still need marital counseling. Many counselors DO work Saturdays because of so many couples that travel in their jobs. On the other hand, your husband may need to make some sacrifices in order to show that he is really commited to working on this marriage.
I feel guilty I couldn't make it work with her father but I think she needs to see that things can be worked through as well.
Don't let your guilt over your 1st marriage dictate what you do in this one. They are two completely different relationships - even if you are the same person, your experiences have made you NOT the same person.
I hope that makes sense....