You should pat yourself on the back for going, and getting through it.
I'm so glad you wrote about this. I have been struggling with this for years now. First I watched everyone I know get married before me. I was holding out for someone that I was compatible with. A lot of these people settled, but everyone made a big fuss over them getting married anyway.
The last couple of years, it's been the baby parties. I have finally gotten to the point where I just don't go. I feel like I'm exempt b/c I don't have kids. I feel left out, and awkward at those parties. And I feel like I don't have anything in common with these people anymore since they became parents.
I avoid the baby showers, too.
I'm glad you were able to get through it alive. I think Mother's Day, Baby Showers, christenings are to the CF what weddings and New Year's Eve is to the single. I think most people are comfortable with being who they are until these pro couple, pro family events come along. I think they are very closely linked.
I know it bothers some of my extended family members, but I wonder how they would feel if the situation was reversed?
I have a writing background, and have lots of friends that work in publishing or marketing or other creative fields. Would they enjoy spending an afternoon listening to people talking about publishing if they have no interest in the field? And if they were CONSTANTLY invited to publishing related events, they would understandably get annoyed if it wasn't their bag.
I know their argument would probably be "but it's their choice." You are celebrating their choice to have kids.
I don't understand why parenthood is in a special category that everyone has to go nuts over it. I can think of 10 other things off the top of my head that are more exciting to me. But I don't ask everyone to celebrate those interests with me.