BellaOnline Forums Health and Fitness Mental Health how do you live with regret?

I know from my experience, for every regret I have - every mistake I've made, something good has always come about, too. I have to go looking sometimes, though.

For instance, my divorce is definitely a regret, I wish I'd been able to make my first marriage work. But if I had, then I wouldn't have such a wonderful husband now, or my rambunctious 4 yr old!

on the other hand, I've sometimes wished that maybe I had married David (my now husband) first. But if I had done that, then I wouldn't have my 15 and 9 yr old kids! Plus I have some really great memories from my first marriage, of good times we had before things started going sour - and I wouldn't want to have missed out on those, because they helped make me who I am today.

I think it is just a question of, what do we regret, how would we have changed things, and then what would be different - but not better today?

Hope that makes sense...

Hi, Bella, very good post.
Tell me, are there some regrets when nothing good came out?
Not from your own experience but from others/
What good comes out aftera criminal regrets having killed many?
Can we discuss?

I think my greatest regret is that I ever met my ex in the first place! It was deception from day one.

One important lesson I have learned from the experience is that what people tell you is not necessarily true, and that they are not always what they appear to be.

I will not be making the same mistake again.

Ann.

I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever. Truly. Everything that has happened to me, whether one might wish to view it 'positvely' or 'negatively' has served to bring me to where I am now. I may have been regretful at the time, and either kicked myself or the nearest cat (I'm kidding!!!!!) but I have no retrospective regrets about anything at all.

I agree with Alexandra. What I thought at the time to be mistakes were actually only steps along the path to reach today. To change any one thing would change the outcome and I wouldn't want to give up any of my current life. I'm sure things could have been different or easier, but then I wouldn't be the person I am today. For me, regret and worry are to useless emotions that use up energy that could be put to better use.

I have many regrets in life.

Das,

What are some regrets you have in life?

Erika,

you are the crime editor?
Mr. Mohatta remembers you.

Erika,

So many things went wrong, either because of my own judgement or fate.
I regret about them.
If you really want details, I can PM .