I have been told before the I make up things in my head, when I get depressed. I have realized that I am part of the problem, he does act as though he is afraid to talk to me about certain things. That may be the reason why he turns everything into a joke. As if he is trying to ease the tension. I usually become very aggravated and just don't bother with the subject. I think I will continue to give him reasons why we both should go to counseling, maybe he will change his mind. At least one of us is going, but I don't think much will change without him wanting to go.