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Is it normal for a man in a living together situation to look at other women when he is with me?

From what I've heard and read, ALL men look at other women ALL the time. It's just that some are more obvious about it. If he knows it bothers you, he should stop. Or at least be discreet about it like a lot of other guys are.

It's about respect. Mutual respect. Gotta have it.

Thank you! You are right. I'm quite secure, and never thought something like that would bother me. I guess it's a bigger question that has got me noticing smaller things. We've been together going on 2 years, things are going great, but I'm not getting any younger and I really want to be with someone who loves me enought to commit to me, and wants to make plans for the rest of our lives, retirement, etc. I've learned all I need to know about him. I love him very much. But there must be something he is not satisfied with for him not to ask the question. It may be time for me to move on and and begin looking for that life partner I've been wanting. I have grand children and want a stable relationship that is apparant for them to see, and someome special for me to spend the rest of my years with. Thank you for your thoughts

I don't think it's abnormal to look (for men or women.) But it needs to be respectful. Also, there is a difference between "wow, that person is attractive" and "wow, that person is more attractive than you" or "wow, I want that person (instead of you)." My boyfriend is a chef and right now, he works at a strip club. Many of the girls cut through the area next to the kitchen to avoid walking through the club itself after taking off their clothes. He'd literally have to be blind NOT to see anything. But it is very clear from what he tells me about work that what he is noticing is the asthetics and personalities.

I own a fabulous Mexican folk art painting that has place of pride in my living room. That doesn't keep me from enjoying paintings at other people's houses or enjoying art galleries. It does keep me from going shopping for a replacement focal point for my living room. (Well, that and my budget...)

Julie

I understand completely what you're talking about. I'm coming out of a bad marriage and haven't dated yet, but there is someone I deeply care about. We're good together in some ways but not good in other ways. I know he's not right for me and don't want to be close to him because of that. It's really hard to care about someone so much but know that he is not the right guy for me.

Haha, it is normal. Don't care it too much. Everyone likes to see the pretty things. Men like to see the beautiful women, women like to see handsome men. It is so natural. You can't stop him. If you really care it, you can tell him. But I don't think your warning will work to him. He will see secretly. It will be more dangerous than he do it together with you.

I may be wrong but I thought you said the two of you were living together. Do you not consider this a commitment or does he act as if he isn't committed save for sharing a home?