BellaOnline Forums Health and Fitness Miscarriage TIME

I am 18 years old and was experiencing severe pelvic pain and was rushed to the hospital. After getting admitted and taking a urine test the doctor told me I was pregnant(my first pregnancy). I should have been around 7 weeks but by my hormone level was showing I should have been only around 2 weeks.

I was supposed to go back in to check my hormone level within the next two days. By the next day I was bleeding and was told I had a miscarriage.

It has only been a couple days since my miscarriage occurred and my body is still in the process of expelling everything. It seems though all I do is cry. I have no appetite and have been forced to eat. I only sit around and cry and I cannot sleep and have been put on vicodin for the pain and to help with my sleep loss.

I'm just so lost on what to do or feel. My parents are having me keep the pregnancy/ miscarriage from my siblings, the rest of the relatives, and friends, so it is really hard to find someone to confide in. My parents don't know how to react to this, especially since I'm barely 18, unwed and am the first in my family to have a miscarriage. All they tell me, including the doctors, is in time I'll get over this. Is it really true? Because I feel like I'm never really truely going to be over this.

You need do nothing, because everything takes time.
Time, by the way, is not the great healer everyone says it is....all time does, is pass. It puts 'space' between you and the event.
There is no guarantee that you will ever completely get over this, although I do trust that the pain will numb, and you can mourn constructively, because of course, this is exactly what you are doing.
And (although this is not implied criticism) I do feel your parents are being a little hard or unfair on you in insisting that you do not confide in anyone around you, especially as they themselves don't know how to react to this....

One possible avenue is for you to get back in touch with your doctor, and speak to him about bereavement counselling, or giving you details of a body/association/group that deals with miscarriage.
As you are 18, and technically an adult, you can insist he keep this totally confidential. In actual fact, I'm sure by Law, he is obliged to....

But I do agree you need to speak to someone sympathetic and understanding...someone who knows 'where you are coming from', because trying to cope with this on your own, at your young age, must be a nightmare.

Try to keep well and to look after yourself.
your body has had a shock, so it too, needs time to heal.