we leave the country. it's that simple.
we've been trying to conceive our only child for almost 10 years and family functions are the hardest things ever. this year, we're doing thanksgiving here at our house with my parents though. my brother and his ex-wife are being jerks and not letting anyone in our side of the family see their children. so my parents are being robbed of spending time with their only grandchildren. <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
i feel bad that we'll be out of the country at christmas because my parents will be lonely. <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> this is our last trip though for a long time. i hate being here for the holidays, but trips are expensive.
i do avoid church though during this time. one christmas i thought it would be so neat to hear the carols at notre dame in paris, and i couldn't even stomach that. i got so freaking sad. i kept thinking it was a memory i should be making with my husband and our children, not just the two of us. i realize now that it was a memory for the two of us and that i was experiencing something very few americans get to experience. so this year, i'm going to try to stick it out and not get sad.
don't really have any tips for coping. it all depends on where you are in your journey.
(((hugs)))