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Many women believe that men have no understanding about women. How about women? What if a woman comes across a prostitute? What would be her reaction? Will she hate her or try to understand the circumstances?

I personally know two women who are prostitutes. Both have their reasons, largely financial. One loves her job, the other not so much. But they both view their bodies as commodities with which to make a living....
We all 'sell' of ourselves to make a living. What skills we have, we put to use. Whether they are cerebral, manual or physical, somehow, we utilise these assets to earn us a salary.
I do not consider what they do to be wrong, immoral or bad.
It's when choice is abused, or when there is exploitation and corruption that the harm is done.
Also, why should they be held as guilty? The behaviour of men who, for example, might cheat on their wives, may be far more subject to scrutiny...

They provide a service. Not for nothing is it known as 'The World's Oldest Profession'....

my cousin is a prostitute she is a drug user to her ther r no close feelings with her johns she says its work to support her habbit she said most of her johns are married and there with the prostitutes because their wifes won't let them do to them what they like, (it makes u think ) she has rubbers but guys just don't want to use them, what makes me so upset that she does have the aids virus like so many of the prostitutes these guys in turn go back to there wifes bed, infecting them with the virus, it just keeps going around, she said a lot of guys like [censored] sex and because there partner won't sumit to that they go with protitutes.

women don't want the pain and discomfort having sex that way

I think prostitution is human trafficking. Period. The buying and selling of women, and it is nasty dirty business. Anybody who thinks that prostitution is a *victimless* crime is just not paying attention to what really goes on in the business of prostitution. And it is a BUSINESS.

Prostitution is closely linked with drug dealing, gambling, organized crime, and certainly violence. Anybody who has not read this rather difficult post should look at it. http://forums.bellaonline.com/showflat.p...=0#Post22874628 This is the real world of prostitution. It is vile and ugly and criminal. Whomever wrote this post is right on the money. Scary and dangerous stuff. And it is happening to women all over the world.

As an aside, I've noticed that cdmohatta's posts are all related to the rather seamy side of sex. What's up with that?

there is much violence towards prostitutes,

Do you wish that I do not write about the reality?

Do as you please.

It was an observation.

I think this is an interesting topic. In a perfect world guess this wouldn't even be a topic to be discussing, but I guess it is a problem the world over.

Logically the only way to control it I guess would be for the government to regulate it, but we know how much of a mess things can turn out when the government is involved.
Nevada seems to be handling it well, but I am sure there is some organized crime involvement in it somehow, which is bad.

In regards to street prostitution though, I remember seeing on a TV show once that something like 45% of the prostitutes in Las Vegas were HIV positive. Which I am sure a good many of their customers are married men who then in turn sleep with their wives.

Heidi Fleiss is supposedly going to be opening a "place" in the same county in Nevada where prostitution is legal, for women who want to have "services" from men. People are SO outraged! What? Is it ok for the men to go to the prostitutes but not women?

Studies in India show that the main reason for spread of AIDs is prostitution. Gates foundation and other NGOs are trying to reach prostitutes but it is becoming very difficult.

Why do women sell their body? Is that a commodity? Do they have no respect for their own body?

There's a market, there's demand, there's exploitation (from both sides, at times) and "sex sells"....

As I stated previously,it is known as the world's oldest profesion, but if you wish to know why, from time immemorial, it has always seemed that women have 'given' and men have 'taken', read the book I have spoken about before.

'Mysogyny - The World's Oldest Prejudice' By Jack Holland.

It's a real eye-opener.

In prostitution, the woman gets money. it is pure business.
Business of selling one's own body.

I suppose it depends on who you ask. For people that have tough lives and end up falling into prostitution, I think it is a bad thing. They are doing it for the wrong reasons. But if a woman chooses to do it and likes it (as someone said about a friend of theirs) I say more power to them. Besides, strippers are selling themselves in much the same way as prostitutes (in the fact that their bodies are the commodity), and stripping is legal.

Also, regarding disease, violence, etc... I think it should be regulated like in Amsterdam. Education and not hiding it in the back closet could get rid of some of those problems...

my daughter is a prostitute she has been beaten many times,shes on the streets to support a heroin habit,she doesn't steal from any one,i pray for her safety all the time, i have more respect for a women who gets paid for what she does then for one who just gives it away,

She can not be deaddicted?

like froggie says it depends on who you ask.
some for their tummy some for sex and money.
some care some dont.

I am sure skyhavens daughter can get rid of her addiction but you have to understand what an unbearbly scary path that can be cdm.. if addiction where that easy to overcome it wouldn't be called addiction

I'm with Alexandra ... "I do not consider what they do to be wrong, immoral or bad.
It's when choice is abused, or when there is exploitation and corruption that the harm is done.
Also, why should they be held as guilty? The behaviour of men who, for example, might cheat on their wives, may be far more subject to scrutiny..." on this one.

Too much old fashioned stigma attached to the sexual aspect. Society should concentrate on getting the slime out of the profession.

I do not hate prostitutes. She chooses to offer a service for pay, regardless of the legalities in my country.

A man can choose to not pay for those services or he can choose to seek out a prostitute for paid sex.

Some women do it from poverty -only for money.
Some women enjoy it and the money.They wreck many homes and families.but both the man and woman are to blame not the prostitute alone.
its just impossible to ban prostuition or bring out legalities against it.
its just the way some people are.men and women.

but there is one thing that the govts can do.help the poor and protect the insecure ones so that they dont have to sell their bodies unwillingly.

Given that prostitution has been practised for thousands of years, and is still common, Governments should legalise it. That way, there would be protection for women, and a service provided for those who want/need it, by those who can offer it, regardless of reason.
If women are forced into prostitution, by making it an officially Government-controlled activity, they could at least gain some kind of protection.
Instead women are abused and forced into a practise that is condemned and criticised by those in authority, but who have themselves occasionally been found enjoying the pleasures of such services! Hypocrites!!

Engee,

Prostitution is illegal in my country and is prosecuted but it's not easy to catch someone doing it so many continue to offer this service.

You said that there is something governments can do...what is that thing?

take care of the poor so that they wont be driven to prostituition.give them jobs etc .

If only it were that simple...the reasons people are 'poor' or resort to Prostitution are legion...sometimes it is povery. Unfortunately, in far too many cases, it's drug addiction. Few resort to prostitution to feed their families or fund their way through college.... The complexities involved are so many, that it would be difficult to know just where to start....

I agree with Alexandra. In the U.S. there are programs for the low income to aid with food, jobs, medical, housing and other necessities.

Being a Buddhist, have you done anything about this?

Yes. have you?

Yes. I have done quite a lot. I notice that you question more than answer.

No, I don't think I do.... But I respond as I find....

I say legalize prostitution, and while we're at it, marijuana too. Stop criminals from running these operations, give the people some legitimate power and protections, and get the tax revenues to serve the needs of people!

We have legal gambling, tobacco, & alchol so why not?

Marijuana has got some good effects as a medicine.

I was an escort for over three years. Of course I did it for the money, but I also did it to support my way through college and to explore my sexuality. It is not something that I regret doing, not at all.

While there are a lot of women who go into the business to support a drug habit, there are also more women than you might think who are in the business to make their way through college or some other higher aspiration. You tend not to see or hear about these women as often because they usually are not on the streets, often working in the anonymity of the internet.

I find it amusing that someone would claim a prostitute contributes to the break-down of marriages. If a man feels the need to visit a prostitute, there are already problems in the marriage. Of course, it's much easier to blame the "other woman" than to blame the man who actually caused the problem.

Is going to prostitute adultery?

thats a matter of opinion - there are many "porn star" couples who have no issue with their partner having sex with someone else for a job..I personally would - its a personal belief on any level