BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids If you got pregnant, what would you do?

This is an interesting question. For me, I'd make sure I wouldn't, with everything possible...but, if I actually did, I'd go through with the pregnancy and give it up for adoption. I've told my mom this, and she said before I gave it up, she'd take it because she has no grandCHILDREN. (I keep telling her my cat Thomas is always there...) I think if my mom did that, I'd move. I seriously do. Not that I'd want the kid, but I know I wouldn't like it because I hate kids, and I'd feel...I guess like I had some kind of "duty" I wouldn't be fulfilling. Plus, my fiance likes kids, even though he doesn't want one, and he'd probably take it. Of course, I'd leave him. I sound evil but with me, a kid wouldn't have a good life. It'd sense my feelings, I'm sure. And I would have hell for a life if I had a kid. So that's my view on it.

if i got pregnant, first i'd have to be treated at the hospital for the concussion i'd get when i pass out after finding out i'm pregnant (we tried unsuccessfully for 10 years). then we'd have to adjust our lives to include a kid. after so many years of being just a couple, it will be a huge change. but the kid would be welcomed here.

we don't expect this to EVER happen, but if it did, right now, it would be great. in a few more years, i don't know. i'm already feeling too old to have an infant in the house.

I would keep it i guess. It would be a total 'miracle' if it did happen; i have a mirena coil which is next best thing to 100% effective. I'm all for a woman's right to choose, but termination wouldn't be for me. I suppose i'd just have to suck it up and accept that my life was over for 20+ years..... And hope that i wouldn't openly resent the poor kid.
Really hope it never happens.

I'm 40 and exhausted enough as it is - I can't imagine coming home from work and having to focus on a child. That said, I'm still a tiny bit on the fence and if I got pregnant I'd think it was meant to be and would welcome the baby into my life and make the necessary adjustments. My DH would have heart failure! It's not going to happen, though. I think it is really difficult to get pregnant when you are doing just about everything to prevent it!

DH and I have the means and I have the type of job that allows me easily to raise a child, but if I haven't had one already it's by lack of interest towards the whole process of pregnancy and the physical damages it does. Luckily my birth control pills work well, but should they fail, I might keep it. I hope I'll never be put in the situation to having to chose. I am satisfied with my life as it is.

I would scream, and scream, and scream, and weep bitterly.

I have a horrid, horrid phobia of this. I don't like any living thing to be on or inside me, especially not in the parasitic fashion which a fetus does. I freak out bad enough when mosquitoes or other blood-drinking insects bother me...I freak out when I think of germs being inside me.

I really don't think abortion is a good thing to do, and it makes me sad, but I think I'd have to. Any living thing parasitizing me must be immediately eliminated, lest I go mad.

This is one of the reasons I want abortion to remain a legally protected practice in my country (u.s.). If I could not get one, I really see myself committing suicide. I could not, absolutely could not, go through with it. It is too terrifying to me.

I would definetly have an abortion. I have that same horrid phobia of pregnancy, jellyfish. Also, I would not be about to handle the idea that my entire life would change against my will. I'd feel like less of a human being and more like a farm animal or something. The right to choose is really important to me. I mean, I choose everything else...where to live, what job to have, how I will spend my time...

I think it is absolutely imperative that women have the CHOICE about what they want to do with their own bodies. We get into very very dangerous waters if that choice is taken away.

That being said, if I were to find out I was pregnant, I would keep the baby. I have a wonderful husband, who though is strongly pro CF (as am I...love our life the way it is), I know would be there to support the new addition. I hope this does not happen, I enjoy my freedom and peaceful house too much!

DH's grandmother is mortified at the thought of overturning Roe. She said "OH NO, it CAN'T go back to how it was in my day!" and she is AGAINST abortion!

At this point in our lives/marriage, we would be okay with an "oops" (it truly would be one) even though we both are very strongly CF.

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