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[color:"green"] [/color] I have been married for less than one year but together with my husband for 5 years. Since our wedding day I feel like things have just gone down hill and I am so tired and scared that things are at an end.We have recently quit using drugs and for a while I let myself believe that was the issue. But the more time goes by the more things happen I feel very ignored and alone. My husband prefers to hang out with my cousin's wife rather than me and when I ask him why he tells me that we don't have fun anymore and all I do is bit** about things. This last weekend things really hit the fan I found him and her by the campfire writing notes to each other and when confronted he threw the note in the fire and she just put her head down and looked at her shoes. I was then cussed and hollared at about how I made her feel and how I hurt her feelings. There was no care or concern for my feeling about the situation at all. I am working on getting custody back of two of our children but I don't know how long I can go on like this I have brought up counseling with hom but he says I am just talking about it to hear myself talk and I am being stupid. He always tells me how much he loves me and say he is happy and does not want a divorce but I don't know how much longer I can go on like this. I am a very strong person and want so bad not to care anymore but my heart won't allow me to stop loving him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. God is love Alisha

Hey! I don't really know what kind of advice to give you, but if I were in your situation I may just go to counseling myself. At least that way you are learning more about YOU, and maybe you can find out for yourself why things are the way they are. And who knows, if he sees a change in you, then he may eventually want to come to counseling too. I wouldn't say end things with him, but work on you first. Better yourself, and then if nothing in your relationship changes, then maybe then consider what to do with it. Sorry I couldn't be of anymore help! Good luck!

The only person you are responsible for right now is you. Take care of yourself and do not, under any circumstances go back to drugs!

I don't see how he can say he loves you when he likes being around another woman. And exactly why, if she is married to his cousin, allow a married man to become that close to her?

I agree with Lala21, you should consider counseling for yourself, you're going through a rough time and it sounds like some support would be great for you. If it's a financial issue, their are some wonderful counselors that offer services at a sliding scale or univeristies that will see clients for a lot less per session. Good luck.