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The best way to improve your life and earn the respect of others is to improve your self-esteem. This is not a very difficult task. All that it needs is good guidance. Here are ten tips that can happen when you improve your self esteem.

1. You should surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive, and shun friends who are cynical and negative. This will generate a huge swell of positive feelings in you. You will respect yourself more, and your self-esteem will grow.

2. You should be clear about what you want to achieve in life. Set goals, and work for their achievement. To make your task easier, break your main goal into several smaller goals which are relatively easier to achieve. This will make the task of reaching your main goals seem easier. It will also give you a feeling of satisfaction whenever you achieve one of the smaller goals.

3. Always be positive about yourself and keep reminding yourself about your good qualities, your accomplishments and how you help your family, friends, others and yourself. Don�t make the mistake of brooding over negative things, and never put yourself down

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Hi Cecep!
Thanks for the great information. I copied it out and stuck it up at my desk so I could glance over them from time to time.

Thanks.

You should be clear about what you want to achieve in life. Set goals, and work for their achievement. To make your task easier, break your main goal into several smaller goals which are relatively easier to achieve. This will make the task of reaching your main goals seem easier. It will also give you a feeling of satisfaction whenever you achieve one of the smaller goals.

I liked this most.

Great resource to have. Thanks for passing on the information!

Thank you for the post, Cecep.

I do have something to add to this, just to keep things in perspective. Studies have shown that the focus on self esteem as a benchmark to "achieve" for a good life doesn't actually work. In other words, your life is not conditional on whether or not you have good or bad self esteem.

I think working on your self esteem is a worthy activity and can only serve to improve your state of mind, but you will be okay either way. Lots of people with lousy self esteem have risen to greatness, not because they've focused on themselves but because they've focused on what fascinated them, such as Einstein with physics. He was a very humble, unassuming man who didn't worry about his self-esteem level. He just concerned himself with solving the scientific puzzles that intrigued him.

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Barbara

This was a great list. I also agree with Barbara in that by simply focusing on your own goals and dreams is a great way to improve your self esteem. You start to believe in yourself once you've seen what you can accomplish when you set your mind to something. Believe in yourself and your self esteeem naturally goes up.

thank you for that heartwarming resource, worth keepi9ng, I love the last tip

thank you everybody for these most helpful tips. these are a great help to me.i agree 100% with catherine8. focus, focus, focus and center ourselves.

thanks again.

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My favourite tip ever for improving self esteem is:

Do something to impress yourself.

I guess that pretty much sums up setting goals and achieving them, as well as reminding yourself of the good you've done.
It's true that a lazy, unproductive person doesn't really have much to feel confident about. You have to give yourself those things.

I've known lots of people who expect praise and kudos from others for doing nothing. I never quite understood that.

"4. Develop the ability to accept criticism about yourself, without getting upset or defensive. This will help you eliminate your weaknesses one by one..."

You mean there are people out there who've eliminated their weaknesses? Now i am really depressed! :D:D:D:D:D

.. but seriously, these are great tips. I just don't personally find it "a not very difficult task" to improve self-esteem.

For instance, number 7, not putting yourself down. I know this in principle, but i find it very hard to eliminate. Many of us with low self esteem heard others putting us down for so long, that when we think critical thoughts of ourselves it just seems familiar and normal, and often goes unnoticed. I often catch myself picking at myself and then realize i'd been doing it for half an hour and only noticed i was putting myself down when i started feeling terrible.

I work on my self esteem a lot, but i find it hard work and i would love to progress faster. Anyone have any further ideas?

Love yourself unconditionally. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes.

Acceptance... i'm on to it.

That gives us lots of happiness.

Are you happy today?
Did all this conversation help?
honest opinion?

Yes, it has and it does.

I'm doing better this month as far as feeling happy in the short term. Directing my thoughts periodically during the day to look at the best, is really helping! Quite dramatically, actually.

I still need to do much better with my self esteem though. It's not that i consciously feel unworthy, but when i want to do something new, like sign up for more college or apply for new jobs... then i find i feel pretty insecure and i drag my feet and fret over it. It's silly, i know, but it's holding me back, and gives me anxiousness.

This is simple I think. We have to decide about the goals that we need to reach to feel that we are working to our full potential. after that we do get satisfaction.

But isn't that making it conditional? What happened to accepting ourselves as we are?

I know what my goals are. But after working hard at this for years, clearly there i have some kind of internal barrier. I think it may be lack of confidence, and fear of what will happen if i reach my goals.

You make a good point.

We should certainly have higher goals and try to achieve them.
But whether we do so or not, we should happily accept ourselves for what we are.

I set goals, i could achieve some, failed in some. I love myself either way. I at least tried. I appreciate myself for that.

Good.

I know everyone has failures. People who try more and are willing to take risks probably have more failures, but also more successes.

I've heard it said that so long as you learn from each failure, it isn't really a failure.

I think too often i compare myself to what i think i should be able to do or where i should be. I'm disguising where i want to be as if i should already be there, but life is a path, not an ending. I'm confusing wants with shoulds. Better would be for me to change this and review my accomplishments and praise myself for what i do accomplish. I think a shift in perspective would help me to feel better and make it more enjoyable to move forward.

It is also, as you said, good to appreciate yourself for trying.

I am surprised with you.
After reading your posts , I feel that you are a very intelligent person. We began this thread about- how will you get greater happiness.

I feel that you are as happy as others are. You are over analyzing yourself.

Your insights in the psyche are very deep and correct.
I think you need to do nothing more except enjoy what comes in life.

Your comments?

What I do to improve my self esteem is, I always do a visualization every morning and nite.
Last time, it's difficult for me to speak on stage, I'm very afraid..but what I do is I project my self to be on stage, give a speak and everybody are give me an applause..
I do it again and again until the speaking day, and the result is that I feel comfortable when I'm on stage and the result is fantastic..

That is good idea.

Herman, that is a wonderful idea! Thanks. I will use it!

cd, i have actually been climbing out of a time in my life when i was very unhappy. Many things happened about 5 or 6 years ago, bad things, and i was depressed and afraid for some time after that. I feel much better now, but i still am prone to sadness so i can't take happiness for granted, i have to work towards it and not dwell on things that will get me down. It would be much worse now if i didn't try each day to be cheery and positive. I am... okay... happiness doesn't often come naturally to me these days but i find things to appreciate, and one day it will again.

I understand. sadness can not be wished away easily.

I am working on two then it will be time to number one which hopefully will help me get to number three but even if I am never like that at least I will be free.

Self esteem and self worth are intertwined. Here's a related article:

Self Worth - How to Increase it

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