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Those really are words of wisdom Trishh. Big hugs across the net for all us lovely women who are simply not in appreciative one to one relationships right now. Let's keep the loving attitude going regardless. Like does attract like...eventually.

Patience, LOL the main message for me has been 'patience' for the last two years! You seem to have much more of this than I do. Perhaps I should try changing my name again <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Lauren, don't change a thing! You are a blessing, just as you are!

You too, trishh, your words are wise and full of compassion.

Love to you all!

I've just been re-reading the novel Memoirs of a Geisha and thought this passage is one we could all take to heart, for which of us has not spent days, months, years focusing on someone we don't "have"?

[color:"blue"] [/color] "On my walk back, strolling along the roadside as the sun was setting, I was nearly run down by an army truck. It's the closest I've ever come to being killed. Only the next morning did I notice that my almanac had warned against travel in that direction. I'd been looking only for a sign about the Chairman, and hadn't noticed. From this experience I understood the danger of focusing only on what isn't there. What if I came to the end of my life and realized that I'd spent every day watching for a man who would never come to me? What an unbearable sorrow it would be, to realize I'd never really tasted the food I'd eaten, or seen the places I'd been, because I'd thought of nothing but him even while my life was drifting away from me..."
Hugs, Trish

Oh my gosh, Trish, what a remarkable thing to post! Imagine all the joys lost, all the happiness that is missed, all for not letting go of what we don't have anyway and missing the beauty that we already have?

I'm going to have to read this book!

Ouch, all too familiar & very poignant. Thanks Trishh for such thought-provoking posting.

That longing really can overshadow all the pleasures in life if you let it, fortunately it ebbs away the less thought energy you put into it. When you dwell on loss like this you renew the hurt daily, ploughing a deeper groove for your sorrow. I've found my writing & creative work has really channelled my energy in more positive directions.

Yes. I have started a new project too, to focus my thoughts and energy on something else that is positive. For nearly three months I have felt empty and out of touch with realit, and now it is time to get some meaning back into my life.

It is truly a tragedy when we allow another person (who doesn't deserve it anyway) to ruin our lives!

Time to move on!

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Good one, Patience - !!