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#249638 - 05/20/06 05:57 AM How do you handle stupid infertility questions?
Julie_Holland Offline
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Registered: 10/19/05
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Loc: Utah
I would love to hear how you handle those stupid questions and comments we all get about infertility. I am not talking about the genuine but ignorant questions and comments. I am talking about the obviously mean spirited questions. Things like "Aren't you doing it right?" or "Have you thought that if your faith was stronger you'd get pregnant?"
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#249639 - 07/26/06 01:10 AM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions?
WaterLily3422 Offline
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Registered: 06/01/06
Posts: 498
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[color:"blue"] I hate the "relax and it'll happen." Um, I hate a tipped uterus and endometriosis. I don't think just relaxing, will help. I also hate the part when people like family or friends know your infertile, and they still hint, or bother you to produce that baby, even though the odds are stacked up against you. [/color] <img src="/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" />

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#249640 - 09/10/06 05:46 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions?
jillrvt Offline
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Registered: 08/27/06
Posts: 4
Loc: Illinois
I agree with you both. I hate it when everyone tells me if you would just relax it will happen, or you need to go on vacation and it will happen, its just not your time yet God has a plan for you and it will happen on his time, or stop trying and it will happen. AHHH! I know people mean well, and I know God is in control, but it is still bothersome for people to say that. My good friend 25 and her husband have been trying for 8 months and just conceived. I am very happy for her, but she keeps telling me it will happen take vacation etc. she doesnt know how hard it is to want a baby so badly, I cry everyday, depressed all the time, and now that she is pregnant it is so hard for me to talk about it, but I do. I always ask her questions and how is she feeling etc. My husband is very proud of me for doing this, but it is very hard for me to put on a front. We are 28 have been trying for 2 years and I know that is not a long time, but I decided I wanted a baby about 7 mo before we started trying and then my sister in law who was not married and still in college oops got pregnant, and then it made me want a baby even more because I love my nephew so much, my husband and I have been tested everything is fine, except i still am thinking about doing a lapascrope to check for endometrioisis. I ususally just reply to everyone with those stupid questions or should I say answers "I know I need to relax and just smile and then go cry somewhere. I really wish I would have not told everyone that my husband and I were trying. Although we have been together for 11 years married for 3 1/2 and people that don't know we are trying will ask us so when are you guys going to have kids. SOrry I am rambling. Again I normally smile say something nice and walk away.

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#249641 - 09/12/06 05:44 AM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions?
WaterLily3422 Offline
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Registered: 06/01/06
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[color:"orange"] I found that telling some family that we were trying can be a big mistake. [/color]
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If motherhood doesn't interest you, don't do it. It didn't interest me, so I didn't do it. Anyway, I would have made a terrible parent. The first time my child didn't do what I wanted, I'd kill him."
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#291408 - 02/08/07 07:15 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: WaterLily3422]
Fil Offline
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Registered: 02/08/07
Posts: 1
Hello Ladies,

First of all I would like to introduce my self... My name is Fil and I am 34 years old. I was diagnosed with Polocystic Overies about 14 years ago and was told that we would not be able to have kids.. I went through the doctors cleaning my tubes and then he had told me that that was going to work and that I would be pregnant in the next couple of months ( talk about a let down) and we tried to concieve for 7 years before I found my miricle doctor.. I know exactly what you guys are feeling, man I had some duzzies when we were trying. I had someone ask me " what's your problem aren't a woman" and people laughing when you say you are having a hard time getting pregnant and rubbing in your face that all they have to do is think about sex and they get pregnant....I know all to well about getting depresses and everyone else around you getting pregnant... My sister (whom I love dearly) go married about 5 years after me came back from her honeymoon pregnant(you want to talk about knocking you off your feet) Yes I was happy for her but let me tell you I must have cried for 2 days straight. When she had my neice I went to the hospital but found that I couldn't bring my self to holding her.. I wanted to join this forum because of my experiences with infertility and thought I could help someone.. I look forward to chatting with everyone!!!!

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#399441 - 03/27/08 09:15 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: Fil]
Sharpiegirl Offline
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Registered: 03/27/08
Posts: 3
Loc: Arlington, TX
I am working in a SMALL office of about 12 women. FOUR of them are either pregnant or just had their babies so there is absolutely no getting away from the subject.
So here I am....41, wanting desperately to get pregnant, been trying for a year and I've got dumbass pregnant chick who sits behind me and has to give everyone a second by second update of her pregnancy. No...REALLY!!!! She gives everyone a second by second update of her pregnancy! The rest of the women are constantly having conversations over my head and around me about how no one over the age of 40 should have babies because that is just WAY TOO OLD!!! Then it's OH, why don't YOU have any kids or why don't YOU WANT KIDS. I'm sitting here biting my tongue the whole time. I can't just pop off and say what I want because I haven't been here very long so I just stuff the earpiece to my phone deeper in my ear and stuff tissues in the other one so I don't have to hear as much of it.
I've blown off every single baby shower that has come up. Fortunately I could use my moving to a new place as an excuse.
I just wish there was some way that you could bring it up to the supervisors without it backfiring and making me look like the bad guy.

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#399855 - 03/28/08 03:54 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: Sharpiegirl]
Linda Hoover Offline
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Registered: 03/28/08
Posts: 3
Have you tried talking to the woman ou give you the play by play? Maybe take her aside and tell her it makes you very uncomfortable. Chances are, she's just so terribly excited she thinks everyone will feel the same way and isn't thinking at all of the possibility that it could hurt anyone. In that way, you woudn't have to go to the supervisors.

People are often idiots when it comes to this. They get so wrapped up in what they are doing, they don't see anyone else. I don't think they mean harm.

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#400013 - 03/28/08 07:31 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: Linda Hoover]
Sharpiegirl Offline
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Registered: 03/27/08
Posts: 3
Loc: Arlington, TX
Great....now another one is pregnant.

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#400404 - 03/29/08 08:38 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: Sharpiegirl]
marcia14410 Offline
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Registered: 03/26/08
Posts: 6
Dear Sharpiegirl seeing that you want to have a baby so badly have you ever thought about having a donor egg and your husband sperm . Then they place the baby inside of you. If you are interested visit this site. www.renewfertility.com or email DonorTT@renewfertility.com
Hang in there
Marcia donor support

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#401560 - 04/01/08 08:30 PM Re: How do you handle stupid infertility questions? [Re: marcia14410]
Ms A Offline
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Registered: 05/20/07
Posts: 655
I always hated the "I know someone who adopted, and then got pregnant" stories. Gee, and I know someone who adopted and DIDN'T get pregnant... or got pregnant and didn't adopt...

I did eventually get pregnant (technically, twice, but the second time didn't last very long), but while we were trying, I remember trying to make jokes. "Infertility means never having to say, 'Oops!'" The best, though, was when I was also dealing with some accounting problems with my HMO, and got a huge printout of all my transactions -- and there was one on there (erroneously, and immediately changed on the next line) that was a charge for Depo-Provara. My husband said, "Oh, so THAT's the problem!"

But to the original question -- Hmm, am I doing it right? Let's see, we chant naked at midnight on a full moon....


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