First, I want to admit that I feel a little weird being a guy on an obviously predominately girl site and, like a few people I've seen, found this topic and made an account just to respond to it. So, here's my story. And it's a long one with a lot to it.
I come from a divorced family and have lived with my dad pretty much all my life. My parents have always lived 3-4 hours apart, so I haven't gone to my mom's much. They are both remarried now, giving me a step-brother and sister on my dad's side and a step-brother and two step-sisters on my mom's.
My mom has been remarried for eight years and honestly from the moment I met the younger step-sister I liked her. I guess I would have been 12 and she would have been 10, so this was back when I still thought girls had cooties, so I never thought much of it.
However, 5 years ago we kissed. At the time, it was amazing, but I realized what exactly happened later and realized how wrong it could be considered to the rest of the world and decided to try and keep it from happening again.
Since then, I've been going to my mom's about for a week about twice a year and only seeing her for a weekend of that time since her mom has custody of her, but they live in the same town. It shouldn't have been hard to avoid.
About two years later, I had a girlfriend. I had told her about what happened between me and my step-sister. I felt obligated to because she had told me about how her step-brother had abused her. I told her it wouldn't happen again, and while she believed me, she obviously still had doubts.
It turns out, she was right to. I ended up cheating on her. Only kissing still, but cheating none the less. However, she seemed to forgive me and we were still very happy together, but I still can't help but wonder if that's part of why she ended up breaking up with me.
After that, I started looking for anyone to put blame on, including my step-sister. When I went down to my mom's the next time, I wouldn't even look at her, and I know that hurt her. By this point, she had expressed her feelings for me, but I was still resistant.
Half a year later, when I went down again, I had another girlfriend, but I realize now I wasn't happy with her, despite moving out of my dad's and into her mom's. This time, there was no resistance. This time, I went to my step-sister and apologized for the way I acted before and we ended up kissing again. This time, I resolved to try and break up with my current girlfriend, move down there, and give our relationship a chance.
However, trouble came. Guilt set in when I got back home (which was with my girlfriend, remember) and basically, even though I never told her, I felt the need to make up for it. Well, sex ended up being my answer to that, and then I heard what most guys hate to hear. She ended up pregnant.
I, however, was excited at first. I love kids and, honestly, wanted a baby. I stopped talking to my step-sister for a while again to try and focus on the baby. I wanted to be around for the pregnancy, but the baby's grandma started making things hard and I ended up moving back with my dad, which only made things worse.
Since then, I've hardly seen the baby's mother, although it's still mostly the grandma that's coming between us. That's basically a relationship I've given up on. I still wanted to be around for the baby, but I realize now I'm never going to have a good relationship with him. That situation is resolving itself, so it's not the topic of discussion and I'd rather not talk about it.
Anyway, I've been at my mom's more this year, once for a festival and another, my sister's wedding. (My only, older, whole sister who lived with my mom.) Since then, I'd given up fighting my feelings for my step-sister entirely. We'd been talking a lot and pretty much had a long-distance love relationship and one time I went down recently, things went a just little further than just kissing. I told my mom, who was approving, and she told a couple friends of her's, who were approving as well. And I am moving down there soon, for a lot of reasons, though.
More trouble came when she started to tell her brother and sister, also steps to me. They started to make fun of her and call it incest. She's very close to them, so she took it really bad and started questioning it all.
So, I'm actually down here now and she even has a boyfriend, which I have yet to meet, but my feelings are the same as they've always been. I've been around her, but she avoids looking me in the eye and I can't help but thinks it's because she's afraid of how she feels about me now. Every time I caught her eye before, she'd get embarrassed, blush, smile, and look away.
I'm 20 now, and she's 18, and yes, I realize that's young. That's why I tried to point out my past. One happy 2-year relationship and another short unhappy one that ended with a pregnancy. I know to take things slow and careful now and that there are still things to sort out, but I can't help but think until her and I try and I have that proof, that closer you could say, there's always going to be that chance that I'll just cheat again and I don't want to do that anymore.