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I am new to this forum and new to miscarriage. Last week I miscarried at 7 weeks. I have 2 children at home ages 4 and 18 mos. No one except my husband even new I was pregnant and I want to keep it that way, but I am desperate to talk about this with someone. First of all let me just say to those who have experienced multiple miscarriage without a successful pregnancy, I am deeply sorry. I have been blessed with 2 beautiful children, and feel so selfish and guilty that this one miscarriage has turned my world upside down. I was fortunate enough to see my baby on ultrasound with a strong heartbeat of 120 bpm and was given the "first photo" as a keepsake. It's in a drawer at home and I haven't been able to look at it. They told me at my first prenatal appt that the pregnancy was a threatened abortion because there was bleeding around the sac even though I was not actively bleeding. I'm really a glass half full type of person, so I didn't think it would happen to me. I spent the next few days afraid to move. Six days later I began to bleed and went to the doctor. The ultrasound showed a fetus with no heartbeat. I was devastated. Over the next 3 days I passed the fetal sac, the cord and the placenta - all structures that I could identify, and the nurse in me really wanted to look. Now I'm trying to cope the best way I know how without confiding in my closest friends and family - that is tough. I found this forum and decided to just start typing. Hope I haven't bored anyone, but it has been therapeutic hearing your stories. Thank you and God bless you all.

I lost my baby today and I feel like I'm dying myself. I have three living kids and this is my third miscarriage- which doesn't make it any easier. We wanted this baby- we tried hard for this baby- and now it just seems like I'm cursed. And I feel horrible feeling that way because I know of women who have only had miscarriages. I knew I was pregnant for a whole two weeks before we lost the baby. My fiance is there but hes hurting and I don't want to wallow in my own self pity and seem selfish. I started bleeding before work- by the time I got to work it was everywhere and I had to leave. I went to the doctor and he said that since I'm only 4-5 weeks along that it'll happen "naturally". What the HELL is naturally suppose to mean? It isn't natural for a women to conceice and love a baby when its growing for God to rip it out of our hands before we can even hold it! I'm sorry- I'm so angrey and I feel like I let everyone down and I can't talk to my friends and family because I am too ashamed that I wasn't good enough for the baby. And I'm scared.

hey you guys dont be so hard on yourselves its ok to feel angry even with God! i had two miscarriage in the space of 8 months we have no children here on earth but we will always love our two litte ones in heaven!
katilicious you have not let anyone down and there is nothing to be ashamed about.
the only way i could get my head round it was that God creates our babies and some are just too special for this earth!
you both need to take time to greive

talking is a major part of this if you cant talk within family etc have a journal and write down how you feel

after my second mis i decided to take control of my fertility so i started to chart my temperatures every morning. now i know more about what my body is doing. it helps a lot as you dont feel so helpless
i also found a website called fertility friend whch helps with all aspects of fertility. charting there is even a community with groups for support you can compare charts ,chat to other people who have bee in similar situations. as you chart your temps you input your data and it tells you when you are most fertile

i have found it very helpful

remember be good to you dont, bottle it up and just feel what you have too ,it does get easier with time just take it day by day. <img src="/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" />