BellaOnline Forums Family Moms What would you do: accidental pregnancy

I know a lot of moms who after their second kid say "I am SO done! No more!". (Some also say that after their first or third or fourth too, of course.)

If you feel the same way ("no more!"), what would you do if you accidentally got pregnant? Would you keep the baby? What if your husband was adament against another one?

Most moms I've asked who say they are "DONE" actually say that they'd have the baby! And even if their husbands were against it. What would you do? (Assuming you're pro-choice that is; this dilemma doesn't apply to those with moral objections to pregnancy termination.)

My mother had 5 kids, then #6. Was really rough as she had gestational diabetes and health problems. He was her first c section. Then along came 7! Another section with problems. Then she had her tubes cut or whatever they did to prevent future pregnancies. For health, and really, she had 7 kids already!!! Well within 2 years her comes #8. What a shocker. She had my brother Charlie. We can't imagine the world without him. Was not always easy, but we are all grown now, most of us in college and doing pretty well. Charlie is wonderful....

I'm one of those that was done after 2, and then had number three. Then I got my tubes tied. I would have been happy with two, but my third is such a joy that I don't have any regrets about keeping her.

Well I only had one child, he was 13 and oh I was saving my money so that when he turned 18 I was going to go on a cruise.....But along came child #2 goodbye cruise. Actually I wouldn't trade #2 for a cruise, #1 maaayyybeee (hehehehehehe)

Well I have 4 kids under the age of 3. If I found out I was prego again I would cry. I know that sounds horrible, but we have 4 kids already, and we are only 26 and 27 years old. But ultimately we would keep the baby, as we have already discussed this. We figure we are adults and are in love, and have a great family that we wil need to take responsibility of our actions, and we have handled 2 sets of twins...so what is one more...as we would be hoping I was only carring 1 child.

As a Childfree woman I would have an abortion

BabyT, that doesn't sound horrible at all - it sounds truthful!

I actually did cry when I found out I was pregnant with my last child, because the timing was so awful. We wanted a child, but not for another year or two. We were not financially prepared nor was I "healthily" prepared.

The day I found out I was near hysterical, and to top it off, while I was on the phone with my Dr. trying to find out what to do about some of my meds (which said not to take while pregnant) my then 4 year old daughter found my scissors and cut off all of her waist long hair!!!! Up to her neck - on one side only - and her bangs to her roots.

Needless to say that did not help things. <img src="/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

She's now 8 and the "baby" is 3. And i think it is me that is not going to survive these encounters! <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I hear you, Michelle. I was in the middle of dissertation, trying to work full-time, struggling with a 5 y.o. kiddo who was having difficulties in school, and trying to pay the high dollar tuition payment to an un-named, state university--when I got the flu and threw up for 4 months. My husband tossed a hissy fit, my doctor's threw a fit, and I sat down and bawled for 24 hours. But I didn't consider giving her up, not as long as there wasn't a strong physical reason (something other than my blood-pressure and age) not to have the baby.

She's here and we love her dearly now. But she is IT. Tubes tied and I'm done.

Oh wow Michelle and Lynn, that had to have been a tough time. I know we cried for days when we found out we were having the 2nd set of twins. I found out late in the pregnancy and my first set were just being potty trained and in the beginning stages of the terrible two's...I never thought we would get through it. But day by day it is getting better. The babies are getting so big, and a real joy to have in our lives.

I got my tubes tied after the 2nd set. I figure 4 kiddos is enough for us. But there have been 2 cases in my family where a child has been conceived when tubes have been tied...so I am a little scared at times, but we have an open agreement if it were to happen, even though it isnt in our plan.

Well, Seth just about killed me (literally) LOL, my kidneys were down to about 48% functioning for about six months after pregnancy. Apparently 1% of women can get eclampsia after the baby is born!

David had a vasectomy because my nephrologist said it would be life-threatening fro me to have another baby. But then I wound up needing a hysterectomy a year later! So if we were to get pregnant again - it would have to be a MAJOR MIRACLE!!!

The funny (ironic) thing is, I was horribly depressed when I found out I couldn't have any more. I knew we really didn't need any more, but just the thought of not being able to have another one was a very difficult thing for me.