BellaOnline Forums Health and Fitness Miscarriage Scared to try again

I am so sorry to hear about every ones losses. It is very hard to go through. I am 34(next week) and have not had a successful pregnancy. I have had 2 losses, one at 7 weeks in 2001 and 1 at 13 weeks this past january. The month of january was rough. December 13th I saw my baby on u/s and all looked well. jan 12th my OB could not hear a heartbeat. U/S the next day revealed no heartbeat and a 10 week old fetus. 2 Days later a D and C, a week and a half of bleeding and getting heavier. Another u/s and my uterus never contracted, pooling blood. 2 Days later a second d and c and a week of bleeding. Now 5? weeks later and no period. Genetic testing has not come back yet. i need my Gallbladder out (sudden issues with that!) and we really want to start our family but i am afraid to go through this again! I guess I just need some support from people that have been there. So Sorry for the long post. First timer.

I went through basically the very same thing. I have had two losses, one at 6 weeks in March '05, and the last one in Oct '05 at 13 weeks. I had a D/C at the doctor's request, but bled every day for a little over two months w/ the doctor saying it was normal but rare. I am just this month getting back to a regular period and trying to decide if we are ready to try again. For some reason, I thought that by now, it would be easier. That I would be able to talk about the last miscarriage without crying. That I would be ready and willing to move on. But, it's tough. I guess in a way it is fear. With the first miscarriage it was so early in the pregnancy that I was ready to try again quickly. The second one, I just was not expecting. I saw my child on an u/s, heart beating, healthy. But at 13 weeks, she was gone. It scares me that it could happen again. The truth is, however that I have to let go of that fear and trust. If I really feel as though we are to have another child, then all I can do is try again. I will be praying for you.

hi i too have lost two babys one in april05 and one in nov 05 it is very hard to try again but its even harder not being a mum when you want it so much i have found a website called fertility friend extremley helpful they have circles of women with similar problems who suport each other and who are all going through the same things.
i am charting my temps every morning which helps lots as i can see what my body is doing and when i get pregnant again i can tell if anything is going wrong.
i hope this will be of some use to you both

god bless
alicat