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Okay, listen to this. This type of relationship doesn't have anything to do with guys. I mean, it's not really a crush or anything. See, I'm 14 and I went to camp. While there, I met this great girl who's 17 0r 18. I'm NOT in love with her. Just, I really, really like her and I think she's cute and I feel that I want her to know that. Now, I'm home from camp. I do happen to have her address and phone number. I don't think it would be a good idea to call her. At least not right away. How 'bout writing a letter? I'm so desperate for her to like me and to get together with me and talk to me and to be kinda good friends. Anyone have a good suggestion? Musical Mom? <img src="/images/graemlins/lovers.gif" alt="" />

Well....you say it's not a crush, yet you "really, really like her" and you "think she's cute" and you "want her to know that" and you're "so desperate for her to like" you...you're sure this isn't a crush? <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If you want to be her friend only, then I would be just that--a friend. Don't tell her you think she's cute or you really really like her or you are despereate for her to like you...because she'll think you want more than friendship. Which means either you'll get stuck with a girl thinking there's more of a relationship there than there is, or a girl who just wants to be friends and is freaked out to be friends with you because she thinks you'll always be after her for more.

Simply write to her and tell her, "hey, I thought you were cool and we got along, want to be pen pals?" You can always escalate it to phone calls later if that works out.

And, keep in mind that you ARE 14 and she IS 17 or 18. That means that you're what, a freshman in high school? She is probably a senior or about to head off to college? There are a lot of differences there and it could very well be that once she's off to college, the friendship will go downhill...even by the end of my freshman year in college I hardly talked to even my best friends from high school anymore. It's really hard to keep in touch and people just drift apart...so keep this in mind so it doesn't come as a surprise later.

I may be a newbie here but I agree keep it simple its for the best a letters a really good idea but if you need to get your feelings out of your system try writing about it <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I think I know what you are talking about, and I understand how this is not a crush.

When I was a freshman in HS, there was a sophomore named Aimee. She was beautiful, popular, on the dance team (which was bigger than cheering at our HS)and destined to be the homecoming queen her senior year (which she was).

We wound up getting to know each other through soccer, she played on the same team as my boyfriend (I was the team's score-keeper, so got to travel w/ them). I sooooo looked up to this girl! I felt the same way you do, kind of awed, and I REALLY wanted her to be my friend, 'cause lets face it, if she was my friend, man I was COOL! <img src="/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> I think that's what you are trying to say about this girl at basketball camp. And no wonder, this Senior in HS, that's pretty, I'm assuming good at B'ball, took an interest in you a freshman; that had to make you feel good!

If she gave you her address, go ahead, write her a letter, let her know you admire her (tone it down a little bit, though). In sororities in college we have Big sis/little sis, this sounds like a perfect type of relationship for you guys! With her as your "mentor" in basketball, high school, boys <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />, whatever. Trust me, people always like feeling needed! <img src="/images/graemlins/heart.gif" alt="" />

Thanks guys. Right now she's still in camp, but when she comes home, I'll write. Who knows? Maybe we'll even get together sometime. Love ya all! <img src="/images/graemlins/kiss.gif" alt="" />

I AGREE WITH HMM