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I am a student in North Carolina at A&T. I am 18 yrs old and I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who I love. Well there is a guy here that stays in my dorm and for some reason I can feel myself neing attracted to him and I do not want for that to happen because I can honestly say that my boyfriend back home has my heart. What do I do? Should I take a break from my relationship and see what happens with the boy at my college? Should I remain in a relationship with my boyfriend and totally ignore the boy atr my college? I really need to know because I have never had this happen to me and I have never had anyone love me like my boyfriend is doing right now. <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />


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been in a long distance relationship for 4 years, and what you're going through is really normal. But here is some suggestion, if you want to stay in your relationship, don't interact with guys the way you would with your bf. In other words, don't get to close because some sort of feeling will develop. Second, if you feel that maybe it's time for a break, let ur bf know in advance. Let him know that you're having these feelings for other guys. It's really a normal thing because you're craving intimacy and you can't have it with your bf right now. So your body is searching for the next best thing: the closest guy within your range...lol...jk, but you get the idea. Talk to your bf. If he doesn't understand, then... at this point, you have to do it for yourself. you guys in college, long distance relationship is the hardest thing to go through. Trust me i've been in for 4 years and I'm 20 now, but somehow I manage to break up with my ex.

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chi,
If you are happy with your boyfriend, you owe to him to be faithful until which time you decide you simply can't bear going without a local relationship. If that happens, let him know how you feel first--then explore the other possibilities. You are lonely now and you have to remember that even if you start a new local relationship, there's no guarantee it will last. Then you will be lonely again. The best thing you can do is try to stay busy and socialize with friends. Take on new projects to occupy your time. Stay in touch with your boyfriend as much as possible. He is probably lonely too.
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he im 15 years old and i have a boyfriend in london he is so lovley and careing and kind. i love him so much. but the problem is it is long distance and i only get to see him 1 every two months it breaks my heart every time i have to let him go back to london. i have only seen him 5 times in 8 months. i feel my life is so unfair and i wish i could do something about me missing him but every where i go around here bring back painfull memerios i need him here for me always, he has been really busy latly and i have not really had a chance to talk to him much and i dont know what he is up to? its so hard for me. any advice
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It depends on what you want out of your long-distance relationship... if you think your guy back home is the one you want to be with and that he's worth the sacrifice, then don't throw that all away on an attraction to someone else that may not last that long. I know it's hard -- I was in one with my first love for 4 and a half years... he was worth it.

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My boyfriend and I, after three years, have just started being in the same place. Before that we saw eachother 8 months out of three years. During that time I had a good friend who was a guy who I really wanted to fool around with, so I know how you feel, this guy was a sweet heart and he was local.
I knew though that my boyfriend loved me and would be faithful and so, as much as it pained me, stopped calling and hanging out with the other guy because I wanted to be faithful, I knew my boyfriend was worth it. Don't know if that helps but thats my experiance.


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You need to RESPECT your boyfriend whatever happens. Being faithful is the foundation of good relationship and respect to each other.
Don't let KARMA be unto you.

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