Hi-- I'm new to the forum, so before I respond to your post, I just wanted to introduce myself. I live in Southern California. I teach Special Education, 4-5 combo--and I love it.
Now, I was wondering about your friend's little boy. Has he been diagnosed as ADHD or with any other learning disability? Does he always fiddle, or only when he is being given direction? Maybe the teacher is just covering her bases, or setting up a papertrail for future LD testing.
Either way, he should be formally tested to prove one way (that he has ADHD, or a LD) or the other (a tactual learner with no LD)
If he is a tactual learner, maybe his mother can give him a "worry stone" or quietly squeeze one of those "worry ball/hacky sacs" when he is learning.
Here's a little information I found in my personal files from a workshop I once attended that your friend might find helpful:
Body Language and Learning Styles
How body language indicates learning styles
For intaking information
A visual learner usually sits up very straight and follows the presenter around with her eyes.
An auditory learner often softly repeats to herself words spoken by the presenter, or nods her head a lot when the facilitator is presenting
spoken information. An auditory learner often �plays a cassette in her head� when she is trying to retrieve information so she may be staring off into space when she does this.
A bodily-kinesthetic learner often slumps down when she listens.
A tactual person loves to play with objects while she listens: flicking her pen or fiddling with papers, or playing with a koosh ball while she
listens to someone talk.