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My 19 year old sister who has been living with me for nearly a year now, suddenly took of to Ohio, where she met this guy for the first time. She took some time off of work and stayed up there for nearly two weeks. She left without telling ANYONE and giving NO CONTACT info.

She says she's been talking to him for a few months now.

When she got back she informed me that they were engaged and she was moving to Ohio in June.

She is my room-mate, without her I will not be able to afford rent or bills, I know this and will move to a smaller apartment. However, everything else that is hers - is in other people's names. Her car is in my name. Her computer is in my aunt's name. I am afraid she'll take off and get the car repossessed. Once again, this isn't just about the bills.

She met him ONCE and has decided to leave all of her family here in TX for him. She is the type that wants to be married, however she is also the type that will go crazy without family around.

Of course my first reaction is anger, because that's how I am. I will not show her this, but in my mind I'm thinking I'll stop paying the phone bill and then she'll have no contact with him and one of the two will give up. Another part of me says to give my father his contact info and have him call to tell him to stay away from her.

And another part of me says that one of the two will change their mind before then.

I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to lose her, but she's not ready for this.

So does anyone have any thoughts or advise, or want to tell me not to react the way I just said I'm going to???

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TELL HER!!! eek I think that is the best thing, try to talk her out of it, tell her everything she has right now n that it will eventually wont work so just talk eek [censored] situation u guys are in though <img src="/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> !!!

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if u stick ur oar in to the point of gettin angry n trying to change her mind, she'll end up hating you for it. if not hate, things will not be the same between u.

this is her decision.. if she screws up, she screws up, you can't run her life for her or make her decisions. guide her by all means, but don't enforce anything on her. let her know how u feel, but let her know that u won't stand in the way of her happiness. she has to make her own mistakes. this is probably one of them. when (or if) she comes crawling bak, i think u know not to rub it in n say 'told u so'. thats the worst thing. don't push her away, n don't let ur family push her away either.

it may seem to u (and its obvious that u all want the best for her n care for her loads) that ur trying to help, but she'll see it as interfering and u not wanting to change.

my mum did the opposite of what i suggested to u here, n it a huge reason why i don't get on with her. we both screwed our relationship. just be aware of all angles b4 u do sumthin.


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Thanks DT, I will keep this in mind. I can already tell that she only sees me as interference, so I'm going to back off, and let her do as she will. Even if I don't approve.

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And Sonny thanks for your input too, I tried telling her how I feel, but she doesn't like it at all. So I'm going to back off.

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*Cough* To much daytime T.V

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i don't watch tv coz i believe it clogs the mind, somewhat...
If u've got nothing useful or helpful to post, Locust, then back off and [censored] off in future.


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I was only joken dont b so sensitive

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Its ok to joke sometimes but when someone needs help don't joke around like that.


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YES IM NO LONGER A NEWBIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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