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There may be accidental pregnancies, but there are no accidental children.

There may be illegitimate parents but there are no illegitimate children.

There may be unplanned pregnancies but there are no unplanned children.

In Isaiah, God says He made you and He formed you in the womb.

In Jeremiah, God says that He knew us before He formed us in the womb.

Ephesians says that God chose us before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight.

Lynne, I love this article you wrote!! I was wondering if I could reprint it giving you and Bella Online credit in Adoption Blessings Journal- a 20 page free 20 page Christian journal I edit. How this message needs to be echoed to the callous world we live in where sanctity of life is not honored and many do not see life as divine and think life can be erased like a pencil error (abortion) I was born in January 1955 to a 32 year old woman who was married and had cancer and a communicable disease- my birth parents were not Christians, did not attend church and had myriads of problems, socially, finacially and emotionally. I was a prime "candidate" for abortion. But in 1955 Life was the law and abortion illegal.My parents chose Life and adoption! How grateful I am that the law and society felt then that life was divine and precious! Who will speak for those unborn precious ones who have no voice!

Blessings, Jody Moreen, adoptee and Editor of
Adoption Blessings Journal
www.adoptionblessingsnewsletter.com

Author who compiled an Adoption book
Letters and Reflections to My Adopted Daughters, penned by John Newton, hymn writer of "Amazing Grace" in the 1700's- Release date 2005 by Pleasant Word www.pleasantword.com

Amen to the so-called "illegitimate children" explanation... I sure wish this would be spread around - I'm so tired of people thinking that unwanted pregnancies are some sort of punishment from God or something. What kind of difference would that make to the abortion rate if people understood just how God feels about kids and how much of a blessing they are? Especially to parents of pregnant teens.

i am a single mom of a 4 month old son he wasnt planned but there was never a time when i wanted 2 give him up hes my pride and joy. if ur old enuff 2 have sex u r old enuff 2 be a parent. sorry. but i like what u pointed out. its not a punishment instead its a blessing!

Hi Jody,
I think these ideas should be shared in every possible way. However, you don't have to give me credit. I think I got the idea from the book, Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. (Day 2)

It impressed me so much, I thought it needed to be shared.

ive never heard of that author ill have to see what i can find thank u

I have a review of the book on the Christian Living site.
Purpose Driven Life

My 14 yr old daughter is pregnant 7 weeks. I have only been 'mad' one day.. it was my day to expel the frustration.. I cannot be angry about this. I am totally supporting my daughter. It will be a tough road and I will be a young 'Gami', but I know this new life is a blessing from God and it will be loved!!!

Illegitimate babies. <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Illegimate children. <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I have NEVER seen or heard of illegitimate babies/children but, I do know tha there is such a thing as Illegitimate Parents. <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

hapma1121,
Its a hard thing to come to terms with at first, but it sounds like you will be a very supportive mom and a loving grandma

Thanks for stopping in and for your comments Bob.

i dont think bob seems 2 happy...when a child is born its ur responibility to nourish that child. but if ur by urself, its harder. it seems everyone has a problem these days,w/single moms. y not dead beat dads?

Hello Lynne and thanks for the welcome. I saw the topic and thought i would put in my 2 cents worth. I read your 1st post on this topic and it is so true. I also believe that hapma1121 is a good mother and will make a good grandmother. Her daughter will need all the support she can get and no condemnation. <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

LOL!~ I was just thinking to myself. . . .boy, that sounds like Purpose Driven Life or 40 Days of Purpose. The book is Purpose Driven Life, but most churches refer to it as 40 days of purpose, for that is what the church does as a whole, when you read the book together.

I just posted another thread about this book, right before this. This book has TRULY changed my life! It gives you not just perspective, but purpose.

You realize that most of life is trivial. We are put here for 2 main purposes: to praise God and bring others to Him. Then, we have individual purposes that help bring about these other two purposes. It really helps you streamline your life, so that you are being the most effecient and effective in God's work. You also feel more rewarded and fulfilled:)

The other thing that I have found, is this book teaches you to figure out what your purpose is, and then streamline, so that you are accomplishing this purpose.

We can be busy with God's ministry, without being productive. I want to be productive:)

Hugs:)

[color:"purple"] Hello Josie,
Welcome to the forum. And thank you for the promotion for Purpose Driven Life. I think it is a very useful book for many people. [/color]

As you all so eloquently pointed out here... God loves EACH and every child...despite the circumstances of the child's birth. God is the giver of life and therefore life is sacred. All life.

However, while we acknowledge the beauty and awe and potential of each and every child...and the capacity for God to forgive any and all sins, should we truly ask Him... we also must remember that as a society, we have just about totally stopped acknowledging sin. That is equally dangerous.

The child of sex outside of marriage is not sinful. The sin was the act of the parents who went outside of God's will and had sex without being married. The sin was on both the man and the woman...not just the woman (although in this society it seems that too many men bear little to no responsibility, and women only precious little). And, if it is sin to have sex outside the sanctity of marriage, then that includes all such unions...not just the couples who get caught up in an unplanned pregnancy. Whether you are 14 or 40, whether you are a man or a woman, whether you experience an unplanned pregnancy or not, the sin is when we go outside of the will of God. The sin is what we need forgiveness for ...and the sin is the act of disobedience to God...the sin is not the child --which is the resulting consequence of the act. The sin needs true repentence. The child is a blessing. -Jenny.

Thank you Jenny. That was also very eloquently put.

When someone truly begins to know God and truly rely on Him, they don't have to be told more than once that something that 'everybody does' is sin. The Holy Spirit begins to change us from the inside. He changes how we view the world and how we look at sin.

The great thing is that this all brings a joy to our lives that we never knew before.