HI,
A forum like the BellaOnline Forums is run by a CGI program that you can upload to your website. One of the programs that a lot of people use can be downloaded free from Matt's Script Archives. Its called WWWBoard. It comes with a lot of helpful info about how to upload and install the program. It also has been around for a long time and most of the bugs have been worked out.
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