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interesting thread here....

Even in modern Japanese society, women who are heavily tattooed are often immediately assumed to be "Yakuza property," that a woman would only look that way if owned and controlled by a man.

And yet, in Japanese mythology, there are repeated stories of meek women who get abducted and tattooed against their will. Then the woman is possessed by the spirit of the tattoo, and usually takes a violent revenge against the man who tried to possess her.

- Rae

I know this topic is really really old but I hold high respect for woman and agree with you guys on the doormat Anology and that times have changed. I think the days of subserventwoman are over but hey I don't mind. I don't think I could handle someone waiting on me hand and foot even if it's just in public. I would find that annoying. I just hope you guys or woman rather don't do it to us to much anyway. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I was actually thinking about this topic today in regards to a story I'm writing. In it the heroine is presented with a choice - to stay where she is (a war-torn area in a fictional setting) and defend her homeland, or to go off with a guy to live a life of luxury and peace elsewhere. The heroine realizes that some women might love that life of luxury, but that she would much rather stay and fight for her homeland, to use the skills she's learned and to feel the rewards of doing a job well.

I was wondering while contemplating all of that just how many people (besides me I guess) would choose the 'hard' life rather than the 'soft easy' life. Which is sort of what this topic is about. What if in life I could have a guy that just smiled at me all the time, brought me slippers, made me food and said "Yes whatever you want" constantly. I think that would drive me insane!! I want a guy that is a partner in life, with his own aims and hopes and desires and thoughts. We'd keep each other entertained and challenged and constantly learning. If I just had a meek, mild servant who never said anything but parrots of my own thoughts, I would really be annoyed. Maybe it's just me ...

Nope, it's not just you lisa. My hubby went through a phase when we were dating where he thought that was what I wanted. It drove me insane! It was nice at first, to be pampered... but then I realized that he was pretty much being spineless just to keep me happy. I remember I used to pick fights with him for no reason! And he'd just let me win, which would make me more mad, and turn into an endless loop of me being ticked off! Finally we sat and talked and got it all worked out. He still pampers me, but it's like someone caring for their partner, not some fawning lackey irritating you lol!

Hmm perhaps that's why the only true date I have had slapped me in the face. Well I no next time now. that most woman only like that in small little dozes God I love this forum. LOL <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

LOL! That's right square, you listen to us and we'll turn you into the ultimately datable man lmao! eh, every woman is different. My best friend can't stand any kind of pampering... at all. period the end. Not even spas. I don't know why, but that's just how she is. I think that she feels like it's a bit of a waste of time. On the other hand, my mother DEMANDS pampering at every second. (That's propbably why she became a lawyer, so she can be pampered lol)And my sister in law would fall apart if she wasn't babied.

I personally think that the relationships that last are the one's that have balance. When someone is babied, they tend to act like a baby. And it seems to belittle the person. It's FAR better to be equals in all things. There's my two cents (again lol) <img src="/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Oh don't worry I will Listen and I hold heartly agree with you about the equals thing. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

This may be off subject, but Do japanese women/ culture believe in adultry ? <img src="/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

In Japan, women are largely financially dependent on their men due to lack of opportunities for employment and, when they are employed, receiving only a fraction of a man's salary for the same work, so it's not like a woman can freely leave (especially if she has children to feed, too), if a man has cheated on her. It's the same in many, many countries.

It's in USA the cheatin' dog will come home and find his clothes on the lawn and locks changed -- but not so much in other countries.

Thats because, before spanish colonization filipino women were equal to men in status. In fact women were sometimes religous leaders. And when women married they didn't take their husband's last name they kept their own. Oh and I wouldn't consider filipinos asians but their own ethnicity. We are just considered filipinos, well maybe for the occasional mestizo(filipino/Asian,filipino/caucasian,filipino/pacific islander.) I myself am an full-blooded filipino, I am descended from the indios(native islanders) with no spanish or chinese blood.