If you're unhappy in your marriage and your husband enjoys hurting you, then there is something wrong definitely!! Yikes! Your husband is supposed to be your *partner* that is beside you, supporting you, encouraging you. He's the one that shelters you against the world. You shouldn't need sheltering against HIM!
This is something that can destroy you slowly (or quickly even), to have the person closest to you actively trying to harm you. I would go to a therapist or minister or priest or whatever works well for you as soon as you can. It would be best for him to go too, but if he enjoys hurting you I would have to guess is that he doesn't want that to end and would refuse to go to therapy. If he does, that would be amazing and a sign that he wants the relationship to work out. But if he doesn't, go on your own.
Talk to someone about what is going on. See if you can find ways to change the dynamics so that he no longer is free to try to hurt you. There are all sorts of techniques you can try. But in the end, if it's just in his nature to want to cause you harm, and if he refuses to go to therapy, and you've talked to people yourself and done everything you could from your end, I'd keep in mind that staying in this for the rest of your life would be REALLY unhealthy. You only have one life, and it's too valuable to spend it having your life-long partner actively trying to hurt you.
I'd definitely say to try everything else first. But don't think this is normal, or that you have no option but to stay with someone who is in essence emotionally abusing you for your entire life.
Lisa, Birding Enthusiast